Hi, I’ve posted here before about my OCD, but I’m genuinely worried about my 15 year old friend’s behavior with his 7 year old little brother now. For context, he has a perverted/sexual sense of humor and is kind of a porn addict. Him and his brother also share a bed sometimes (it may seem weird but sharing beds with family is pretty normal where I’m from) and he once said a while back that his brother would sometimes hump his leg. Me and my other friends were really weirded out and asked him why the hell he wouldn’t tell his brother to stop, and he said that he doesn’t really care and is usually half-asleep and doesn’t do anything because he’s too tired. Later, I kind of just forgot about this, but then he casually told me he humps his brother back? I was disturbed by this and I asked him why the fuck he would do that and he said that he didn’t mean anything by it and that it was just something he did randomly. I asked him if he actually knew what humping meant, and I showed him a gif of someone dry humping and he said “wtf no” and said that he only called what he did “humping” because another one of his friends called it that and that he didn’t do what the person was doing in the gif to his brother. After this I kind of assumed that he was doing something else innocent and just called it humping because he didn’t know what the word meant, but just now I remembered he said something about humping the bed when he was a kid and finding that pleasurable, so clearly at one point he did know what humping means to some extent but I’m still not 100% sure if he does know what it means. Idk what to do really, I don’t think my friend is a pedophile because he’s said before he doesn’t like them, but I know most child molesters aren’t. I also don’t think he humps his brother for sexual pleasure if he does do it, but obviously it would still be wrong regardless.
It sounds like you’re working with pretty limited information here, so I’d hesitate to call anyone a molester. That being said, your friend may be setting bad boundaries and engaging in some harmful behaviors. If you have the type of relationship where you’re comfortable doing so, you could direct him to your local StopItNow (or similar organization)
Okay so I asked him about this, and at first we got into an argument about it and said he didn’t remember the conversation at all and we got pissed at each other, he has really bad memory so I think he genuinely forgot about it. Later I asked him again and he seemed genuinely confused about what I was talking about, and I mentioned some specific details, and then he finally did remember the conversation but he said it was about dry humping. Then I asked him what he meant, and he told me that he sometimes hugs his brother while sleeping in an affectionate way but that one of his friends called what he did dry humping for some reason and so he thought that it was a different thing. He told me he knew what regular humping was.