These are things that I came up with because of trauma and stuff.
I am alena, but beyond that anything else about my identity is irrelevant, however for these purposes I will say that I am under 25 and young.
I guess it started a year ago when a catalyst of sorts happened. I was mistreated and almost considered suicide. I needed help so I turned to reason to do so. With time, however, I started to gain a higher level understanding of fear. I realized that all the pain I felt, I mostly caused myself.
Lots of stuff happened, mostly abandonment, but as more stuff happened, I understood things better.
I managed to cure myself. I generated one of my core beliefs, journey over destination.
As long as the ending of something doesn’t hinder things in the future, the end never matters.
I soon came to no longer fear abandonment as I did before. I’d rather do something enjoyable, knowing it will fail miserably, then never do it at all.
People put hundreds of hours into enjoyable things, and when it ends because of something bad that happened, essentially forget it all. Hundreds of hours of enjoyment, disregarded because of 5 minutes of negative effects. It’s silly, really.
Soon, I cured myself of other phobias. I won’t dwell more on this, as I need to focus on the main topic.
I developed extremely refined beliefs, and proof for them, and I wanted to help others.
So, here we are now, my views.
Firstly, fearing sexual stuff is a problem caused by pressure. It’s essentially a feedback loop.
People shouldn’t be hurt by it at all, but if you make it out to be bad, it suddenly is bad.
And before I continue, I must define some neologisms (neologisms are new terminology or definitions).
Pressure: Condition(s) deemed standard by a portrayal of the majority of people’s views(although not necessarily an accurate portrayal).
Hate: Umbrella term for anything relating to repulsive behavior(not wanting something)
Erotophobia: Irrational hate of erotic, “kinky”, intimate, or sexual concepts, including but not limited to, sexual PTSD, but not usually including asexual identity and biological hyposexuality.
Essentially, erotophobia is part of what makes sexual assault “hurt”.
The rational hate of sexual assault stems from our biology’s inept fear of entropy and chaos, leading into our fear of losing control.
However, the less rational, societal fears make up the majority of sexual assault. These fears are created by pressure. Its a feedback loop that says "Sexual stuff is bad, so if sexual stuff happens to you, something bad happens to you. You are now bad.
Sexual stuff should not be shamed, it should be normalized. By normalizing it, you remove the societal fears entirely.
And now we move on into the main topic: Consent in America.
It’s really bad.
Those under 18 do not have legal rights to their mind or body. Fair trial doesn’t exist in any way, as people will always take the word of those over 18 then those under 18. I have lots of disgusting examples of things that have happened, that would not have been a big problem if “minors” had rights.
Being under 18 basically makes you subhuman. At the same time, turning 18 gives you access to basically everything without any effort at all. Don’t know how to buy a house? Who cares. You are 18 now go wild. Don’t know what a condom is? Doesn’t matter if you don’t know, you are 18 now and that’s all you need to have sex. Can’t properly give consent due to reason here? Doesn’t matter, you are over 18 now so it’s not like anyone can help you.
Gaining such rights in America, and basically all countries to my knowledge, basically amounts to watching a number tick up. There is no testing or standards. They just assume you have the morals and reasoning to to not ruin your or someone else’s life.
Especially regarding sexual stuff, if one or more person is under the age of consent regarding sexual stuff, everyone loses their shit regardless of context. Its really gross to shame minors for participating in such things and its way more damaging in the long run.
So, what is the solution?
My idea is an entirely different system:
Once you turn 12 you gain the right to take something called the license test. If you take the license test and succeed, you are given access to both a physical and digital license, that includes an identification number, a verification token, and the rights you have.
The license test basically tests you on your logical and moral skills. Once you have a license, you must take the license test every 3 years to make sure you didn’t go crazy. If you get good scores, the time can be increased up to every 10 years. If you are reported you may have to take the test again.
The license alone gives you the right to your mind, fair trial, and you may legally right a will, but it also allows you to be tested for other things. You can gain automobile rights, body rights (divided into health rights and sexual rights), financial rights, and so on.
For example, to gain automobile rights, you’d be tested on more driving-related logic and morals, your vision and hearing, reaction time, etc.
To gain health rights and sexual rights, you’d be tested on your knowledge of sex, health, basic human biology (aka you are not being asked to name the parts of a hair follicle), self care, and the morals and logic regarding them.
You get the idea.
The license is a physical and digital thing. Your identification number can be looked up on a public database that just says what rights you have, so its basically impossible for people to lie. The verification token is a private number that only you can use, that basically is like a signature and a social security number combined. You would use it to agree to more legally binding things where “yes” isn’t gonna cut it.
This system would solve so many problems and the more you think about it the better it is. I can think of tons of things a system like this would solve