Vague Societal Ideas

Some brand of therapy where you can go in whenever you want and leave for whatever reason or any reason. You can get treatment for whatever you want, just depression or some side issue. Leave politics or stereotypes at the door. Don’t push whatever brand of politics one subscribes to. There is a lot of paranoia about being brainwashed. No unnecessary or unwanted therapy and obviously no brainwashing. Strict doctor / patient confidentiality, even if someone is committing a crime, if someone is viewing the illicit images that Prostasia calls “CSAM” (I am not very familiar with these new terms), then therapy obviously increases the possibility of them not doing that.

Get rid of the sex offenders register. The only reason it still exists is because of a debunked study which said that sex related crimes have a recidivism rate of 80% (I can’t remember the number exactly). It truth it is much lower and it isolates people from communities and generally makes them suffer making it more likely for them to commit crimes of all kinds.

Avoid over punitive penalties that only serve to make random people commit suicide, barely tackles the problem and fills the prison system with non-violent criminals. Prisons are not cheap. And people don’t break the law just to spite you. This might be changing in some places however as there are more and more one year community service sentences over spending 15 years (more than actually molesting someone, in fact child rape in quite a few first world countries is 10 years) in prison.

Avoid criminalizing every little thing just because a pedophile might find it “attractive”. I can assure you that “pedophiles” in the right circumstances can find every picture of a child on the entirety of the internet to be “attractive”. It doesn’t necessarily mean they are going to attack them, whether they do that or not.

Stop banning random things just because you find it uncomfortable. It would seem that political theater is in full force with sex dolls, literature, cartoons, etc. being banned one after another in more and more jurisdictions and people being forced to undergo “therapy” as a consequence and possibly going to prison.

Don’t go banning arbitrary kinds of speech, just because you don’t like it. Speech people don’t like is often speech that shines a light on all sorts of atrocities, injustices and all the times when society is ramming themselves head-first into the wall when the door is right next to them. This is the same principle of why Nazis, whose views I deeply loathe, are still a fixture of the web.

Speech can also be a social outlet of sorts, in my opinion at-least.

Recognize that depression and isolation can lead to heightened sexual impulses in order to give a relief from those negatives thoughts.

Recognize that isolating any group can cause very scary looking symptoms like this: Derealization - Wikipedia

Recognize that cartoons aren’t necessarily just for kids. This is a very weird thing because in the West, people associate it strongly with kids, but there are plenty of adults who enjoy such things as-well and there are even ones with mature themes. This is a difference in cultures of sorts.

Recognize that someone doesn’t just put up “cartoons” purely for the purposes of “grooming”, but because they like to surround themselves with things they like.

Aussie censor balks at bijou boobs • The Register Recognize the apparently obvious truth that looking at small boobs on 20 year olds is not going to magically turn you into a pedophile. Neither does looking at flat chests and neither does looking at naked kids (last one not mentioned, but I’ll note that to make a point). I have no idea why some people seem to believe this.

You have many good points, friend. The solution, or at least the most essential element to coming to terms with a problem, involves acknowledging that we don’t have all the immediate answers or we have to be able to question our judgements and preconceptions. In order words, free our decisions from our emotional bias. It is most definitely not easy, that is most certain. Even I have trouble conquering my emotions regarding very volatile topics. Instead of balking at the first sign of trouble, it helps to understand the context and not jump to conclusions about things.

A way of bypassing parents for therapy might be good, preferably without crazy inhumane drugs that even U.K. doctors seem to largely refuse to prescribe on grounds of their personal morals.

Ah, what the heck, I’ll elaborate on this case further.

In this specific case, I don’t even really know what he did or how bad the impact was, but in some cases, touching someone like that can be very damaging with them self-harming (cutting up their own genitalia), possibly committing suicide and retreating from anothers’ touch for many, many years, possibly for life.

There are a lot of people who likely view images they shouldn’t and as a collective remind people that there are always things up of them, but unlike this, this is very, very direct and very, very damaging. It is a very serious crime and one charities have a tendency of forgetting in favor of counter-intuitive soft targets.

It shouldn’t be treated like some sort of joke that “minors just do”.
The circumstances behind it do matter to some degree however, it doesn’t always have the worst impact, although you never can be sure and chances are that it will. I won’t elaborate in detail.

This doesn’t mean they should die for what is effectively a mistake which they were clearly remorseful for, when they were a minor no less and introduced to new emotions.

It’s not surprising that it’s the sister, as it’s often a family member and usually when people are asleep. This really could have been handled better, privately without the family getting involved and preferably anonymous.

No pressure for junk science interventions or feel good “suppress the desires” nonsense that just makes the problem worse. Seriously, you would think that half of the people writing such things have no clue what they’re saying. Wait, they don’t.

As a general rule, if you’re out of control (most people can control themselves tbh), try to stay away from kids, quit making excuses to go see them or conveniently picking professions that will bring you into contact with them.

If it’s family, that is harder, something to distract like an outlet perhaps, maybe a stupid sex doll, although that is very, very hard to hide and will definitely make them react badly, if nothing else does.

Find a weirdo like an autopedophile (I called myself a weirdo haha) or someone to RP with you. If you’re a minor, this may difficult as this may be against the law, if an adult is involved (and you can never be sure on the internet), and even if it wasn’t against the law, it would be against ethics rules.

Cartoons or something? Hopefully legal sexting, if the gap isn’t stupid big? This is very difficult because teenage sex drives are really active, I generally avoid giving such advice as it often goes down a dark road we don’t want to go down.

Variety usually helps, as the brain likes new stimuli (you can literally create any scenario in fantasy you want), although it does reset periodically. Orgasming multiple times might help. Simply looking at something without doing anything about it often just irritates it.

Eat healthy and don’t eat too much chocolate. Chocolate is an aphrodisiac, so unless you are firmly in control and want to make yourself happy, it is perhaps best eaten in moderation.

Simply looking at someone isn’t a problem, unless you’re being creepy or something. Don’t go on YouTube videos telling nine-year-olds how hot they are, if you do end up doing that. Don’t be one of those guys, it makes everyone look bad.

Try to avoid doing things that could put you behind bars, if it’s close enough, you probably shouldn’t be doing that either, especially as goalposts are moved every now and then with little rationale as to why or advance warning.

Mental disorders need to be treated properly by a specialist, preferably without giving away details about this, they often appear early enough in life however that they usually appear before it emerges, so you will likely get some idea on how to deal with it, provided you have good mental health coverage.

Just about every “hands-on” crime I have seen mentioned so far seems to involve either someone with ADHD, someone with autism, or something else. There are a couple others as-well who seemed mental disorder-less. I don’t deal with these people, even to help, as that is just asking for trouble from the police. Any place that has even one is hazardous to me.

Some mental disorders have proper medication, others don’t, some have very nasty side-effects. Get proper guidance from a specialist on the specific condition, not just a useless professional who just gives “generic help”. Try to work with it in your life rather than against it. Do research.

Don’t just parrot people either, come to your own conclusions on things and do your own research. For the record, PD doesn’t exist. When I say a mental disorder, I mean a real mental disorder, not just calling pedophilia and self-hate / stigma one.

One thing I should note because people keep poking me about it (even if I would like to pretend that site doesn’t exist and just watch more rational accounts like Prostasia) is the virtue signalling on Twitter.

I’m not even sure they are really MAPs or are just pretending to be, but they seem to brand anyone who thinks that anyone under 18 may be capable of consenting (in an advocation type way, not breaking the law) as “pro-contact” and argue to exclude them, which would effectively kill off the movement entirely.

They seem to think it is exactly the same thing as having sex with a three year old and that questioning it is a no no no. One thinks that anyone who does that is really someone who wants to have sex with three year olds trying “infiltrate” or anyone who doesn’t explicitly make condemnatory posts against advocating such.

One person even thinks the age of consent should be increased to 25. There is a big difference between being against abuse and polishing the turd.

@dontomiton I’ll contact you, I have been a little busy~

The NYTimes is an annoying organization that likes writing smear pieces.

They like to blame tech companies for problems that largely stem from society. Parents who leave kids to their own devices and are often stuck to mobile phones themselves. They want to go full China by having a government ID system.

They cite nebulous numbers like “45 million images” without saying what these images actually are. Sexts? Nudity? Clothed stuff? Sex? How many are duplicates? How many are private and simply backed up? They will mention that at-least some portion are the “worst of the worst”, and that is likely, but it is unknown what portion.

Is there any connection between this claim and the IWF being inundated with false reports?

They pull an old study out of the wood-work. Convenient confessions. They rely on polygraphs and there are even allegations of people being threatened to be kicked out of treatment plans, if they don’t confess to the “crimes they have obviously committed”.

They complain about low incarceration rates, when in truth, many are incarcerated under plea bargains where it is better to confess for a crime you haven’t than be hammered with a sentence five times longer.

More incarcerations is not the answer, Prostasia seems to doing some good things by pointing out alternatives in ads, this may help as opposed to saying this is illegal and go deal with it which never works.

There are many problems in the world, but expecting Silicon Valley to magic them all away does not work and will probably drive us all towards the next recession. It will also cause problems in Europe, as a lot of what the U.S. wants them to do flies in the face of the European data protection law.

Of course, asking the New York Times, or any other major news network, to fact-check and thoroughly examine their sources would be akin to cultural compromise. These “informative” information providers can’t be bothered to do something that would not only take a considerable amount of effort and care, but also be a sign of authenticity, simply because they don’t care enough about the situation at hand, and are likely more concerned with selling contradictory headlines. How droll. Its disheartening, to say the least.

Honestly, what they advocate is the absolute bare minimum, the therapist shouldn’t report someone if they’re in possession or even distributing it.

If they’re producing it, running a sextortion scheme, paying someone to livestream rape or abusing someone, that is more reportable, as this sounds as if they’re being truly malicious. Some countries like Germany (to my knowledge) give therapists absolute immunity even in those circumstances, so they’ll actually turn up to therapy no matter their past transgressions, but that may be a bit much for here.

This publication doesn’t seem to realize that if someone faces legal consequences for going to therapy, they will simply end the therapy or not bother turning up in the first place, in-fact they somewhat seem to realize this, but don’t quite join the dots together about who needs therapy the most.

None of this means they will magically escape prosecution from the police or have investigations against them nulled while they are in therapy. If they catch them, that is the same story of how they always catch them, but with therapy to hopefully reduce the amount of damage they do.

I’m not going to go into deep moralizing about such content, but the idea that someone viewing an image is just as traumatizing as them personally committing a crime tends to just shutdown any progress.

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The important thing to remember is that therapy is not a magic bullet. It might reduce how many times someone views it, but it doesn’t guarantee that someone will actually stop doing it, especially not immediately.

If the argument is that each image you view (or perhaps, person you view) revictimizes them, then the therapy might reduce the number of times you personally revictimize them and it may also reduce the number of people whom you revictimize.

This goes double when you consider that a lot of therapy is really elaborate thought suppression or “coping mechanisms” which by definition is impossible to tackle the root issue. I would be very wary of any sort of magical thinking.

An alternative to the illicit imagery is perhaps one good idea.
You also need a certain level of discipline there as-well, although less so if you have not seen the illicit imagery. It certainly reduces the raw need however.

Discipline is not a particularly widespread trait.

In one case, I read the same article on four media outlets (it was about “Welcome to Video” getting shutdown). My memory is kind of fuzzy as it includes some technical details, but I remember the gist of it.

One said the site had 500 or so users, a few committed suicide to avoid arrest, that it got ran out of the owners bedroom, that people had to post content to join. He got arrested there because they found his IP in “View Source”.

Another said that because the website allegedly had millions of Bitcoin addresses (some scheme to make it harder to trace transactions?) that it had capacity for millions of users. They also said he was arrested by tracing the transactions.

Another said that it was the “largest site on the dark web” (if it’s the biggest one, then the FBI must be doing a really good job, because Child’s Play had a million accounts and 10k actual users). They claimed that because of it’s scale, it “must be” making millions and the owner doesn’t deserve his unusually light sentence.

Another said the site was making millions.

There is something that is off to me about this, the most notable being that different media outlets are effectively telling me different things with no coherent story. It is also strange, although not entirely improbable that 500 users would be spending enough money for the site to make millions.

I dunno, perhaps the media is just confused, but it is a little weird. Maybe, it is really big and one just did a misprint. I would expect these people to check the facts really carefully before publishing however. This is kind of the problem with the media.

I found one source that seems to cover a lot of detail, it is not “making millions” however.

During the 3 years of its operation, the site received at least 420 BTC, equivalent to $370,000 at the time when the site was taken down, through at least 7300 transactions.

If there is something I dislike, it is the media’s tendency to exaggerate. It doesn’t really make the site good either to not exaggerate, it just tells it how it is.

One thing I’d like to know is how these sites are managed. Where do they get their information from? Rumors? It’s sickening for these organizations to pass themselves as impartial, resourceful and flexible when it doesn’t entirely seem like that. When you have thousands of stories being contributed to your offices daily, you have to have a filter; only choose the most nebulous, grandiose, and scarcely documented stories, whilst inserting their own superficial idea of what they want a story to be, all to entice gullible, naive readers. It’s a race, a monetary chase. Who can conceptualize the biggest “disgrace”? Whoever wins makes the most money, without being questioned for authenticity purposes. Unfortunately, many readers of these columns only obsess over the article’s headline, and accept everything readily. Extra! Extra! Read all about it!

It’s hard to tell. Sometimes, a media outlet will copy another media outlet, this gives rise to the saying that a lie can get half-way across the world before the truth can get it’s pants on.

They often will retract statements when challenged, but by that point, it is a little late. We might need more in the way of fact checkers, although they’re rarely mentioned for things like this.

I have received some allegations regarding activity in a chatroom which goes by the name of “MAP Support Chat”:

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Opinions are opinions.
It is deplorable they would allow someone to use a platform dedicated to support and preventing individual from killing themselves to advocate self-harm.

Please step up moderation and show that such conduct is unacceptable and strictly punished with permanent exclusion. This is NEVER okay.

Death is an escape, not an effective solution. When dealing with people you may not particularly tolerate, you must certainly avoid becoming some kind of monster yourself. Hate begets more hate. Killing, either through homicide or assisted suicide, is highly illogical; how is destroying someone going to bring any sort of substantial benefit? Where was this chatroom? Did you ever participate?

Nope, I have never been there. Apparently, this was actually quite a while ago, so they have probably improved by now, but it is pretty bad.

Boring fact. If you think something is illegal, it stresses you out and makes you worry about it more (including images in your head which would normally not really appear past looking at the thing) and makes it even more likely that you’ll escalate.

It doesn’t really matter if it actually is or isn’t.

That is completely true. A solid state of mind is quintessential for analytical and deductive reasoning. Speaking of, how do you deal with stressful topics? I usually have to process it, accept alternative viewpoints, do some observation and questioning, and find a solution which I can hopefully work off.

Cloudflare is very weird. They are the only tech company which could actually be considered as “looking the other way at child abuse” (unlike the others where they think they’re not proactive enough), but it is a classic case of intermediary liability and not wanting to open themselves up-to a mishmash of conflicting laws from over a hundred different countries.

They’ve changed their stance somewhat after the death of free speech in the West and their embrace of moderation. In for a penny, in for a pound.

The Dutch need to be better at handling their illegal sites.

It is similar to NCMEC and the police where they are just really underfunded (as-well as being bombarded by false reports, over 75% of the reports to the IWF are false, this should be an offense as it wastes police time) and incapable of properly doing their jobs and everyone likes to point fingers at tech companies (who have a million things they have to do to remain competitive other than this).

It should go without saying the IWF would have more time for “child abuse images”, if they stuck to that and didn’t try policing every computer generated form. These are apparently not a “waste of police time”, even though it is ultimately futile and counter-productive.

It should also go without saying that invoking the big scary ooga booga of “big tech companies” that fail when they have the resources distracts from the fact that many smaller sites and businesses don’t have the resources to address every contingency.

They instead have to not just satisfy all the somewhat arbitrary regulatory and “looking the other way” constraints, but they also have to bring their sites up-to snuff with the giants and add unique competitive bits.

They also have to minimize liability (the chances of them getting sued) as all it takes is one lawsuit to end many business. Minimizing liability tends to work in very counter-intuitive ways where there is a very perverse incentive to make anything suspect even harder to take-down.

Small businesses are also the ones most likely to break-up the monopolies, not heavy-handed regulation. Many have “encryption” or “privacy” as a competitive edge.

I guess when it comes to priorities, many put their own self-interests and immediate goals above that which lurks just under the surface. Most companies would see these offenses as a public “nuisance” that would destroy their reputation, and would focus more on perpetuating a false holiness rather than being overly concerned with protecting those who service them, which would probably help with morale.