I was not quite sure where to put this topic-wise, but I think Prostasia and Virped are the best places (staff, feel free to move it). I am mainly writing this for muggles, or adult-attracted people, so Virpeds and MAPs please bear with me a bit.
I was talking with my therapist this month about a theory I have, and I think some of it at least holds water.
Every single pro-contact pedophile I have spoken with or heard from, you see a few very common themes, and for some time I have been asking myself what the root cause might be for why someone would start to justify the idea that children can be sexual. I have also heard a lot from people who used to be pro-contact.
I wonder if the root reason is related to the amount of stigma levied at minor attracted people, in a way that becomes a circular cycle. A lot of people, myself included, are wary of much of society because of how we are treated by society in the way of laws, attitudes, etc. I probably do not need to go into too much detail with examples for some, but hear me out.
You belong to a stigmatized minority, and the news constantly uses basically the only concise word you really have to identify yourself to demonize, otherize, hate, and ostracize you. The only visual outlet you have is illegal and difficult to find, and beyond that you have almost equally hard to find fictional material. All of society tells you it is wrong to do this, wrong to do that. Is it any wonder that some turn to resent that so deeply that they rebel against those rules and push for change?
I think at least part of the solution is to have ethical materials - fictional or non-fictional - that are more easily available. Even with all my connections, I have a difficult time finding places I am comfortable with for a few reasons:
- Internet safety: Does it use reputable scripts, are there popups, does it work with the privacy add-ons I have installed?
- Ethical: Do I know that this site has nothing illegal going on with images of real children? Is there any way I can verify that?
- Searching safely: Given those two, how do I search for fictional material in a way that is safe? How do I make sure the site I am visiting is real?
I think Prostasia’s certification mark is an excellent step in this regard, but I think it would be wise to brainstorm some kind of way by which it is easier for artists or even organizations to vet their status as ethical, and have material that is both satisfying and ethical. Fictional images for some run into the problem that they do not look realistic enough, and real images run into the ethical/legal problems of potentially being connected to illegal operations or not knowing whether the image was obtained and distributed ethically.
I will not go too much into details, but suffice to say that minor attracted people are presently operating in a rather grey area. If one is not comfortable looking for images, or not comfortable asking people on where good sources are, that leaves fantasy of real children, which leaves minor attracted people generally MORE uncomfortable for a variety of reasons (myself included).
I know some minor attracted people might counter me on some points - image searches, Instagram, photo sharing sites - but my main point is, muggles have an easier time of obtaining pornographic material than minor attracted people, and I think that needs to change and can go a long way both in preventing image-based offenses, but also in not alienating minor attracted people from society in a way that pushes them towards pro-contact ideology.